The Four letter word

To some this word is offensive
To others this word is scarey
Some people spend their lives searching for this word
Others spend their lives avoiding it at all costs
Its a four letter word which is used miles too much in society today
But its also a four letter word that has maybe lost its meaning because its been used so much
When its said can spark many emotions
apparently it can even build a bridge
Saying it can make you happy, sad, mad, or glad
Hearing it can make you cry, smile, run, or dance

So what is this four letter word?

L*VE

so why is it that this one word can be the cause of so many confusing emotions, that it can cause arguments, that it can destroy as well as build things?

I believe its because its such an ambiguous word.

What is love?
Is loving someone a choice or a chemical reaction or something else?

The last time I was in love someone told me that they believed love is a choice, you choose to love someone. That choice is sparked by an attraction either to them physicaly or to their personality but it is still a choice, which is why so many people dont ever love someone because they stay waiting for the butterfly effect as a sign.

I dont think I believe this but its an interesting opinion.

The reason for this blog is because Ive realised I over use this word, and I think maybe Christians in general do too. I tell a few people that I love them all the time, and online its even easier to say it without thinking about the meaning of the word. Christians are told to love thy neighbour and certainly amongst younger people this has led to people seemingly so keen on saying i love you or luv ya etc that its no longer as special as it once was.

dont get me wrong I like it when people say they love me, but because i hear it so often I dont end up believing it when told it by people who mean it (if that makes sense).

When I do start to fall in love with someone I stop saying the L word, because I dont want to say it until I can say it with 100% honesty. but this seems a bit backwards to me.

There are people I love because they have earned my love through my life, these people are my family, my best mate Ian and his wife Jen, and finally Lisa. This is type 1 of love.

There are people I love because they have had an important part of my life in a different way to those above but I dont speak or see them that often but I know Il always love them. These are people like Katie (my exs baby), people from my old jobs, and friends from when I was younger. This is type 2 of love/

There are ex girlfriends who I once loved so much (altho may not have been in love with them) and I will always love them in some shape or form. This is type 3 of love

Then theres friendship love. People who are friends, you love them for their friendship and how they are there for you etc. Type 4 of love.

Finally theres the big one, the being in love, the love of your life (if that actually exists) This is type 5 of love.

So theres 5 types of love, which explains why the word is so over used and which explains why its such a complcated word.

For those who have reached this far, well done, i love you!

seriously Im not sure where im going with this, which I guess is a bit like love itself, whichever type of love it is you never know where its going which is why its so exciting when you have it and its so devastating when you lose it!

dont worry Im not in a "I want love now" mood, just thinking about how I use the L word and how I, and other value it.

For future reference I do want to find someone to love with all my heart, but im not sure Im ready at this time for that person. Also if I say "I love you" to you, even in a joking way I do actually mean it but it doesnt mean im after dating you.

Currently theres 2 or 3 of you who I say I love you to, and if circumstances were different I may not say it so much because there may be a danger of me falling in love with you (or am I just leading you on now getting you to wonder, just for the sake of it) but they aernt so anyways.

loves clearly a big issue and ive produced a bigger blog than I thought I would so Il stop now.

Thanks for reading.

Luv Ya