listen

I was half way through writing a boring blog listing everything thats going on at the moment when I heard a voice say something very deep and meaningfull. It said...

listening can effect your career
listening can even mend a friendship
Ultimatlt it keeps you in the moment so you dont miss the things that really matter

No im not hearing voices or having words of wisdom from God, it was the voiceover on TV programm scrubs but it was something I needed to hear so maybe it was sort of sent by God.

Im desperate for God to reveal to me things about my career as I have 2 job interviews in the next 3 weeks (first one on monday in Liverpool) and need Gods guidance well and truely.

I need to start listening to a few others to help mend some friendshios and or relationships

and I need to stay in the moment and not miss the things that matter.

so yeah this blogs boring but meaningful

are you listening?

latest sermon

proper blog coming soon but for now can I direct your attention to my other blog which is where I post the sermons that I preach.

my latest one has been posted today, would appreciate comments on the sermons as well so if your feeling spiritual get reading.

the link is in the blog links over there ----->

but for those too lazy to look it is here,

http://moretyssermons.blogspot.com/

Its good to talk

Today I wanted to phone my grandad.

There was no reason for wanting to call him, other than i wanted a random chat, the type of chat which only he could give me.

Id ring him when I felt lonely or down but didnt want to discuss the reasons, he would just make me forget everything and would make me smile, just by chatting about the life the universe and everything.

For those who dont know (and you should know if you read my blog regulary) Grandad died in August and this is the first time Ive really missed him since the funeral.

I then picked up my mobile and flicked through my numbers and discovered I hadnt deleted his number, so there I was sat staring at my grandads phone number on my mobile half wanting to ring it, even tho i knew he wouldnt answer it.

This got me thinking about the way people communicate now adays.

I always argue that nowadays people communicate more than ever before but in different ways. This is all well and good, however, it means people dont talk to each other any more.

people can and do go a whole day without hearing a persons voice once, and yet could still have "spoken" to lots of people. Chat rooms, MSN, Texts, emails, facebook, blogs etc help to build relationships amongst strangers but is this healthy?

when I was going through my mobile I realised that out of all the numbers I had texted most of them a few times in the past month but had only spoken to about 2 of them.

Theres people I dont hear from in a while so I text them and say hi how you doing etc, but dont ring them.

Theres a question to ask so I text it coz its quicker

the opportunities just to speak to someone are there but for ease we do something quicker.

When was the last time you had a phone conversation about nothing for the sake of having a chat?

who do you ring when you just want a chat about nothing?

we live in a world of communication and yet weve stopped talking to each other. so heres a challenge to you all.

next time you think about sending a text to someone ring them instead.

next time you have some time dont come online ring someone who aint spoken to for a while and catch up with them

and finally remember the bt slogan "its good to talk" and make it a motto to live by.

leave a comment, oh and if you want a chat, give me a call!

The Four letter word

To some this word is offensive
To others this word is scarey
Some people spend their lives searching for this word
Others spend their lives avoiding it at all costs
Its a four letter word which is used miles too much in society today
But its also a four letter word that has maybe lost its meaning because its been used so much
When its said can spark many emotions
apparently it can even build a bridge
Saying it can make you happy, sad, mad, or glad
Hearing it can make you cry, smile, run, or dance

So what is this four letter word?

L*VE

so why is it that this one word can be the cause of so many confusing emotions, that it can cause arguments, that it can destroy as well as build things?

I believe its because its such an ambiguous word.

What is love?
Is loving someone a choice or a chemical reaction or something else?

The last time I was in love someone told me that they believed love is a choice, you choose to love someone. That choice is sparked by an attraction either to them physicaly or to their personality but it is still a choice, which is why so many people dont ever love someone because they stay waiting for the butterfly effect as a sign.

I dont think I believe this but its an interesting opinion.

The reason for this blog is because Ive realised I over use this word, and I think maybe Christians in general do too. I tell a few people that I love them all the time, and online its even easier to say it without thinking about the meaning of the word. Christians are told to love thy neighbour and certainly amongst younger people this has led to people seemingly so keen on saying i love you or luv ya etc that its no longer as special as it once was.

dont get me wrong I like it when people say they love me, but because i hear it so often I dont end up believing it when told it by people who mean it (if that makes sense).

When I do start to fall in love with someone I stop saying the L word, because I dont want to say it until I can say it with 100% honesty. but this seems a bit backwards to me.

There are people I love because they have earned my love through my life, these people are my family, my best mate Ian and his wife Jen, and finally Lisa. This is type 1 of love.

There are people I love because they have had an important part of my life in a different way to those above but I dont speak or see them that often but I know Il always love them. These are people like Katie (my exs baby), people from my old jobs, and friends from when I was younger. This is type 2 of love/

There are ex girlfriends who I once loved so much (altho may not have been in love with them) and I will always love them in some shape or form. This is type 3 of love

Then theres friendship love. People who are friends, you love them for their friendship and how they are there for you etc. Type 4 of love.

Finally theres the big one, the being in love, the love of your life (if that actually exists) This is type 5 of love.

So theres 5 types of love, which explains why the word is so over used and which explains why its such a complcated word.

For those who have reached this far, well done, i love you!

seriously Im not sure where im going with this, which I guess is a bit like love itself, whichever type of love it is you never know where its going which is why its so exciting when you have it and its so devastating when you lose it!

dont worry Im not in a "I want love now" mood, just thinking about how I use the L word and how I, and other value it.

For future reference I do want to find someone to love with all my heart, but im not sure Im ready at this time for that person. Also if I say "I love you" to you, even in a joking way I do actually mean it but it doesnt mean im after dating you.

Currently theres 2 or 3 of you who I say I love you to, and if circumstances were different I may not say it so much because there may be a danger of me falling in love with you (or am I just leading you on now getting you to wonder, just for the sake of it) but they aernt so anyways.

loves clearly a big issue and ive produced a bigger blog than I thought I would so Il stop now.

Thanks for reading.

Luv Ya